5.03.2006

The first time I ever saw him...

...I thought he was psycho.

I met my soul mate as he crawled into the back of my car. He was a friend of my boyfriend. He had long dark hair and piercing blue eyes. A mix between Jake Gyllanheal and Mel Gibson. At least, whenever I see those actors, I'm always reminded of him. I'm sad because I really can't picture him today. Not today.

It seemed to me at the time he was a little crazy - talked nonesense alot and laughed even more. I saw through him - at least I thought I did. I remember telling my boyfriend - "that guy is psycho". Ironic.

Little did I know that my soul mate would rescue me from the true psycho. He once came over to my house to rescue me - that's what he told me later. We sat in my empty apartment (no money, no furniture) - he was on a folding chair and I was on the floor by his knees. I was eerily drawn to him because of his warped sense of humor. Beautiful smile. His long eyeslashes. I'm remembering now.

There was no exact moment that we clicked. Just many small events.

Like the time he came over to wait for Bob...but he and I spent the afternoon talking about random shit - about the stench of the landfill across the street from my house - about the color of my workout shorts (purple) - about why Bob and I were together.

I left Bob one night. Left him without him knowing. I was sick of his shit. Just packed up all my stuff and took off. Then went to a wedding reception. My soul mate and his sick sense of humor thought that it would be funny to watch as shit hit the fan. I was furious. Why would you want to watch someone else suffer? I thought you cared about me? He was stunned. His smile stopped as he saw my eyes. I felt betrayed. And then I went back to Bob.

I found a new apartment. I wanted to live alone. Bob and I had officially broken up when I caught him talking shit about me and found out he was seeing another girl. Bob needed a place to stay. I let him live with me - but he needed to be gone in a month.

I was the Assistant manager in a health club -Vic Tanny. I spent most days - and most nights- there to avoid "The Bob.H" Surprisingly, Lane (soul mate) got a temporary membership there too. One night he and his buddy helped us rearrange the club equipment. I think that is when it started.

Lane knew I was in some trouble with "the Bob" - so he started hanging out at the club more. I got a flat tire one day - and ran into Lane - who helped me out by driving me to the tire shop.

Lane would swing by while I was working to chat. We were becoming friends. For whatever reason, I liked him. A little crazy, but dangerous. Good fun.

Lane said The irishman was having some people over for a party - would I like to go? I needed to get away from the Bob, so I told him sure.

He drove me home because I would not have a way to the party otherwise, he hung out and had a beer at my place - I was trying to leave before the bob showed up. No luck. Lane saw the nasty mess.

The bob shows up and when I announce that I'm going to a party - he freaks out. Calls me a slut. That i'm sleeping around - he won't give me the car. whatever. We hop in the Renault - with bob screaming at me. It was the first day of freedom and I could taste it.

At the party I had a few beers...Lane had MANY. He proceeds to make a few passes at me...I decide I like it. We are both exhausted - but manage to find a bed to fall asleep in. We tried fooling around a bit...but to no avail. The alcohol consumed us first.

I needed to work the next morning - at 8am. Lane slowly wakes up and drives me to the gym. It is all a bit uncomfortable, but I decide to take a chance. I kiss him on the cheek and tell him that I had a great time. I really like him - but who would want to get messed up with me and my sticky situation?

I can only think about him all day. I have no idea how I can pursue him. Would that be too pushy? Was it just a one-night thing? I'm terrified.

But I manage to pick up the phone that afternoon and ask him if he would like to see me again. He said yes.

2.22.2006

Connected

I feel connected to the world. Aware of everything that is going on
around me.
I feel like I've discovered some new country or frontier.
I feel like I have some continuity and that the Earth-Time continuum
does not apply to me.
I feel strong.
I feel vibrant.
I feel spiritual.
I feel...happy.

2.17.2006

And then there were four...

I wish I could say that I've had alot of girlfriends in my life, but the truth is I have not. I have prided myself most of my life on being the adventurous, independent, thrill-seeker - keeping guys as my close friends and reveling in their attention. Being a bit of a tom-boy, I never understood girls (or my mother, for that matter). My idea of having girlfriends seemed more of an obligation than a privilege.

It was when I first moved to Chicago about 7 years ago, that I began to discover the true meaning of having girlfriends. My party life began to take it's toll on my finances and I took a part-time job at a yacht club, where I met E. She was beautiful, vivacious, intelligent - hell, alot like me! She, too, was "into computers" - a perfect match! We bonded instantly and began to go out together after working the yacht scene - sharing our "boy stories", our career frustrations and the like. Our spirit together was definitely infectious (especially with the men)- and together, we were on fire!

Through E, I met S - who was good friends with L. L was a gorgeous Canadian redhead in for a weekend tour of the city. She was also in computers and looking to move to the big C and so the four of us decided to hit one of the street fests L was just a little quiet for me (or so it seemed - it turns out I am just extremely obnoxious and she uses her voice precisely when she wants to!) I really liked her and just had a good feeling about her! Not sure exactly what she was going to do about moving here or where she wanted to live - and upon the awesome time we had during Guinness-fest that September day, I immediately asked her to be my roommate. She said yes and L and I became wonderfully close and remain good friends today.

Through E, I also met C on the beach playing volleyball. C was this dark-skinned, athletic beauty - I really couldn't make out her nationality when I first met her. Turns out she's American - with a little East Indian background! I realized I was a putz for not thinking beyond my white-bread Wisconsin upbringing. Anyhow, she was super-tall, and really fun - kind of a wild-child - something I didn't expect our of an med student! Yes, she was going to be a DOCTOR. I was drunk on the sidelines and in my work outfit - so I was hollering obscenities just being crazy- and trying to flirt with the cute boy she was playing with..(there is a story there - but I'll save it for later) I think we decided immediatly that we would need to hang out more and so now there were four (S lived kind of far away and didn't get to see us much)! The invincible "Sex and the City" girls...before they ever existed! Before I knew it, I was sharing stories, getting crazy, dealing with life - and with a group of girls who were just so amazing! I began to realize what a lucky girl I was!

Through these girls, I began to blossom into womanhood. To realize the qualities that I had not seen in my struggle to be a tomboy. Beautiful, sexy, smart, vivacious, and so full of life! That was us!

The memories I have of these good times, and of other events in my life could not all be captured with photographs...so reminiscing about myself today, I realized that as horrifying as some of the stories turned out - I never want to forget them -ever.

So this is a work in progress - a small book,if you will, of the amazing life and times I had in Chicago.
Some of the events pre-date and post-date the Chicago era; some are embellished, but most are amazingly, abhorringly true. I miss you guys.

We

My dearest:

You
You are my lover
You are my best friend
My light
My joy
My mirror
You see me beautiful
You make me beautiful
You are beautiful
You are so many things I will never be
You are so many things I will be
You are the one thing that I want to be
You are the one that I want
You are the love I searched for all my life
You are my love I dreamed about
You are the dream
You are my dream
You are my love
You are me
I am you
Me
WE

2.15.2006

Tantra Rant

The spiritual art of love..of connecting spirit with form. It is experiencing love through the beauty of the earth and all existence. It is about acceptance, rather than denial. It embraces compassion...about truth within unconditional love.

Tantra is a spiritual path. It is not a religion or dogma. Religions have restrictions...barriers.

Tantra is not about sex. Sexual experience in tantra is about ignition of bioenergy, but release of this energy does not require the act of intercourse. Some practitioners of Tantra (Tantrikas) do not engage in sex at all.

Tantra is a lifestyle - a way to acknowledge our sensuality and our spirituality - to feel a sense of connection, or oneness, with everything.

I do not believe that we are human beings that can are having spiritual experiences...rather, we are spiritual beings having an human experience...